I Want to Go Baaaackkk..
No, this post is not a tribute to LOST though it should be because HELLO, PEOPLE!! MY FAVORITE SHOW IN THE UNIVERSE IS COMING ON TONIGHT! Just don’t get me started on ABC moving it to Wednesdays when I’ll be in the church house. Since I am one of the only people in the civilized states who does not have DVR, I’ll be streaming Thursday morning.
Now for the real point. {Oh, yes I do have one!} For those of you who are new around here, I’m the proud mom of three boys and a little stinker of a girl. Boy Two just had his eleventh birthday which we celebrated Monday since he was out of school for MLK.
Now once upon a time I was a little neurotic with the birthday festivities. Let’s just say I’ve moved past the days of making table centerpieces from tissue paper, weighted blocks, dowel rods, and themed paper plates (though they were genius if I do say so myself) and have transitioned nicely into the non-party birthday. This year, Boy Two officially tired of pointy hats and noise makers and instead wanted a few friends to spend the night. The plan the following day was to go to the movies and walk around the mall.
Excellent stuff as far as I was concerned.
The sleepover was pretty uneventful until about 12:30 a.m. when Boy Two walked into my bedroom and said, “Dad, I need to ask Mom something.” Now I was dead asleep but he persisted in talking to Luke who kept insisting I was asleep until I was no longer. I finally, very sweetly, said, “WHAT IN THE WORLD DO YOU WANT?”
Very, very sweetly.
Boy Two said:
“Mom, I was just wondering. When we are at the mall, will you walk at least two stores behind us?”
The kid woke me out of a dead sleep after midnight to ask me to be invisible.
I replied, sarcastically of course because that is our love language, “Gee, Boy Two. You sure you didn’t want to bring a knife in here and stab me right in the heart while you are at it? That should slow me down.”
He laughed and walked out not having any idea that in front of my weary eyes he had grown up just a little bit more.
Maybe I’m not transitioning so well after all.
Next birthday we are totally getting a themed birthday cake.
And some table decorations. Some really awesome, homemade table decorations.
Well, at least he still wants you in the same mall with him. LOL They grow up way to soon.
If you figure out how to go back, please share. I’d like a repeat performance of my babies too!
Our Noah turns eleven on Feb. 3rd. How fun that our boys are close together. Thanks for the heads up for what to expect in the next two weeks.
You REALLY need to come stay with us in Colorado!
BTW, I cannot get the book at our library. I am going to call them tomorrow and ask them to order it…hope they will!
I hate to break it to you, Lisa, but there’s no going back now. Hang in there :)
LOL – I have a 12 year old son and feel your pain.
Blessings – Lisa
LOL. That’s pretty funny.no…that’s real funny. What’s he thinkin’…your cool.
You can go to the mall with me anytime!!
Ahhh yes I remind myself daily that my kids really do love me even when they say such sweet lines as please walk 2 stores behind us!!
the good news is that in a few years they do a complete turn around (I have raised 3 sons!) and they very much want to walk the mall WITH you because they are very grateful that momma is buying them new clothes at the mall … something that they can’t afford to do. Sons are great – I wouldn’t trade mine in for anything.
Oh Sister,
You should have told him to call his aunt Christi and ask her if it was o.k. Then I could have put Kayla on the phone and she could have cried him a river!
You should have told him that not only would you walk 2 stores behind him, you would also let them walk to the mall while you drove behind them. You wouldn’t want to embarass him by providing transportation! :D
Do NOT take it personally. It’s what they do. And the fact that he feels so close to you and so understood by you that he could ask shows how much he LOVES you. Do what you will with his request, but i say, you’ve got a good relationship.
Ouch! And you were being so sweet, too…
My #1 girl turns 11 next week, and how crazy am I…we’re having a themed party which IS a sleepover, with 8 girls invited andI’malreadystressingaboutitwhatwasIthinking!!!
And don’t forget the party favors…lots and lots of obnoxious party favors.
As for LOST…I can’t stinkin’ wait!
Xandra
Oh, how I dread the day my baby doesn’t want me around anymore!
If I were you I would have worn an over the top disguise and darted around the stores like a mission impossible spy just to torment him! ;)
Too funny! My oldest turned 11 today. So far his thing is not to run up to him while on the sideline and lavish him with big hugs and kisses! I guess I understand.
Oh – what a bittersweet story! This is my future!
PS: And you are not alone — no DVR here either … :-)
I like your siter Christie’s idea of them walking to the mall. LOL. I know how you feel. The birthday party changed for us this year also. As you already know, Rachel only wanted her girlfriends to go out to eat and to the movies with her which is very strange considering some of her very best friends are guys, your #3 son being the best of those.
There may be a little girly girl in there somewhere after all. What do you think? LOL.
Tammy
You need to get a pinata and some party hats too!! Keep ’em young.
We used to tease my boy that he’d need to find a wife that likes affection because he seemed to need so much. He was hugging me ALL the time. Now he’s 17. Hugging is no longer something he’s comfortable with. :( I miss my huggable little boy.
Bless your heart!
Several weeks back,in a lively and fun conversation, my son accused me of wanting him to be 3 again.
On and off, I’ve thought of that, and although we were both teasing and laughing over a particular action, I began thinking, “I need to make sure he knows how much I enjoy where he is right now in life”… so, just yesterday, I told him.
I reminisced with him about some of his cute baby days – and told him how much I miss them – but I began telling him some of the things I enjoy with him at this age – things we’ve done, things he’s said, what I see in him.
He’ll be 13 in April, and, thanfully, still very affecionate PRIVATELY, but we have definitely seen that ‘pulling away’ independence.
Sigh… I think I’m gonna go dig out the picture albums and mope… sniff!
Ohhh man! Don’t fret! It happens. Wait until all their friends like you and they act like they(your sweet stretch mark making youngins) definitely DO NOT like you.
Talk about a knife in the heart! O U C H I E !!!!
You’re lucky he didn’t ask you to wait in the car. Been there, done that. But trust me on this one, he’ll be back. When he gets his cap and gown he’ll want his mama taking pictures. When he gets married he’ll want his mama pinning on his boutineer. When he has his first child he’ll place that baby in your arms and his arms around you both. And then it will all be right. blessings, marlene
…..and hats! Don’t forget the cone shaped birthday hats!
Hi Lisa,
I’m so glad I found your site it’s so exciting to see so many sisters all in one place *smile*.
I remember when My kids asked me to drop them off a block from the school , it wasn’tcool to be dropped off.(sigh).
Awwww !
{{{Hugs}}}
The table decorations themed with the cake…I think that will do the trick!
Something tells me he will deeply regret that conversation.
I have leftover princess party decorations, if you need them for next year.
I have raised and released 2 boys into the adult world. I seems as moms we are either “hero” or “zero” to our kids!! I found however that when they get married and they have children themselves, then they rise up and call us blessed!
Until they are old enough to do that for you, please let me “rise up and call you blessed.” Press on, mom. This too shall pass! Blessings.
Oh!
Well I must say, you’re a witty one! I don’t think I could’ve came up with that great response at midnight!
I agree a nice themed b-day next year with nice pointy hats will make it all better!:)